Choosing a groom has never been easier for the typical arrange marriage oriented family these days. They just head to the mall, look for the varieties on offer, choose the best product off-the-shelf after carefully evaluating the price tag, quality benchmarks and the country of origin.
If imported, it is certainly a big buy, even if there are minor quality issues who cares? But if degrees are premier,love is certain. Rest can and will be blissfully ignored. Compatibility ? Huh ? What’s that got to do with marriage?
So when an elitist and sexist offensive advert splashed on a national newspaper, it drew a huge backlash, I was taken by surprise. Didn’t we do this to ourselves? The gentleman duly apologized for the mistake , but it is a classic case of shooting the messenger when the whole society or at least a large part of it is behind this mindset. But who’s listening?
Dramatic begets drastic, drastic induces madness, madness guarantees catastrophe! When you have a mix of madness, multiple communication platforms, low-cost technology easily accessible and mass usage, it makes for a heady cocktail or shall we say, a recipe for disaster.
Hyper communication has changed the way we live and poses a threat to our future. Elections get decided on mass consensus, leaders are chosen on custom tailored messaging to appease masses and they, in turn, are influenced by the communication they see, read and hear on social platforms which being engineered by a few minds behind a computer.
Will an algorithm now decide the future of peoplekind?
Shock sells, sanity rolls its eyes over,yawns. Normal is boring. In recent social media backlash, outrage over News Channels’s shocking and insensitive coverage, I wonder if we will ever watch a regular story? Will we ever have a contest which does not use the word explosive, dhamaka, or describe any superlative performance with killer instinct,extreme, insane, and similar examples?
If you have the patience to read a simple not so shocking write up, you can read the full article here
The corrupt politician and the lazy government servant, the conniving lawyer and the biased officer, the perverted boss and the proverbial night worker, the bitchy daughter in law and evil mother in law. The chauvinistic son and the dominating mother, the characterless artist and the hypocritical socialite, the patriarchal father and arrogant daughter, the dirty janitor and the frugal lender, the ruthless competitor and the office politician, the drunk driver and the brat rich kid, the arrogant star how conniving they are…so look around carefully, you are everywhere.
Double duty? Stepping in for someone else? Standing by? Just doing your job ,quietly? No fist thumping, high-fives across the corridors, no loud guffaws, no sharp look designer shoes and boutique suits?
Good money, bad money, white money, black money, blood money,terror money, dowry money, legal money, aid money, donation money, honey’s money, lost money, found money, fake money and now demonetized money! They say the more you have it, the lesser you sleep, but the lesser you have , the more you long for it
Some sections of the media, paid media, working for corrupt politicians, some pseudo intellectuals endorsing cuckoo politicians, black money hoarders, form a heady mix and give rise to a huge confusion to the common man or woman.
Even if you searched Google for successful introverts – the top search results had words like insanely, wildly,crazily successful introverts! Take a look at the advertisements around us and you will notice words like “Mean-Machine”, “Killer-shot” , or in sports “that went like a tracer bullet”, or in food “that’s like gunpowder hot” or even birthdays “Have-a-blast” , defining excellence in ability,taste or even celebration.
Wait a minute. Didn’t we define terrorists by those superlatives?
Just like Sachin is to Cricket, Cricket is to other sports in the country. Everyone focuses only or mostly on Cricket , and once in 4 years when Olympics come along, the nation wakes up to lesser mortals and their stories of struggles and survivals.
This week was a tale of two women with extreme ironic destinies.Aruna Shanbaug dies after being kept in a coma for 42 years and a Braveheart girl ,all of 17, scores 84% in her Higher secondary exams, in spite of massive odds stacked against her.
Its Friday night , raining and cold outside, you are snuggled up inside the bed watching your favorite tele serial :Chota Bheem. Or its a lazy Sunday afternoon and you are watching POGO, and if that’s not enough you have Doremon slated for Sunday night prime time.! Now before you think I’ve gone cuckoo, this is what could become a reality if the censorship authorities have their way. No place or space for good classy mature adult content. Because they believe ,you just cant handle it.
Gender equality and respect is not a project, drive, or movement.Its a way of life. When will you be driven be reason rather than emotions? What are you going to differently today? Answer these 10 questions and see if it makes you uncomfortable? you will know where to start.
Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus is now passe. The planets have interchanged. What was erstwhile a womans issue is now also a man’s issue. I am talking about men being perpetually misunderstood and stereo typed. The fact that a woman too can cause mental torture and abuse the law to her benefit may come as a surprise to many.Yet it happens , more so now, than it ever did before.
In this day and age, where does the average Joe stand ? Is he expected to buckle up like all the other supermen or is he expected to fade away into oblivion? When the great speakers advocate follow your heart and the average Joe believes that and tries to implement those thoughts at his workplace, more often than not, it backfires.
When someone you know says “I have the best deal in the world” – what is your reaction?How many times have you heard this at a social gathering or at work or even at school ? And if you quietly shrug and smile. There is a problem. Has it occurred to you that the world might think of you as a LOSER ?
The recent article in CNN about how an American woman got groped,masturbated at, stared and filmed on her visit to India has raked up 800,000 views. The question here is -what perception does it trigger about a first time traveller to India ?
Here is an objective article articulating how to look at the situation in India, what to believe and what to dismiss, a view on things to keep in mind and more importantly what how to have a neutral view of the situation.
If aliens were in town, you could be sure that would’ve been on the Oprah Winfrey show by now and not hiding in a remote underground bunker in Area 51! The disclosure or acknowledgement of the existence is not an a-ha moment for most of us and for those few who did have an aha moment, they have a lot of Youtube footage to catchup.
What difference does it make to your life if there was an Area 51 or not? Or whether it really made a difference to your Monday morning ride to work? Or your evening stroll to the bar? Zilch.
So lets get on with life till it comes back with a new definition…as X files suggested..the Truth is out there….
Why do we celebrate Mother’s day and Father’s day on different days? Why this inequality?
What is the origin of equality or inequality ? Where does it all begin? Where does it all end? Think about all the incidents,events in your life when you happily consolidated the inequality of our species without batting an eyelid,just because it was the natural thing to do.
And then we fight battles for equality on various forums. 🙂